Monday, February 9, 2015

Family Research

The past month or so I have been devoting most of my time doing genealogy.  My Mom left me 2 boxes of papers.,.letters, handwritten notes, and a few mysteries to try and solve.  She had to do this the hard way.  No computer, no car to drive to libraries...just the United States Post Office.  Somehow she was able to find out who to write letters to to get copies of birth and death certificates, and whatever else she was looking for.   She started doing her research in 1977 with my Aunt Helen.  I am sure that Aunt Helen took her places to do the research because she had a car.  Aunt Helen died in 1984.  After that, I think my brothers or Dad and occasionally me.. would take her places.  There is very little order in all her items.  But I am having so much fun going through all of it.   She did some journaling....and a lot of that is depressing.  I have run across a few things that have made me laugh for about 15 minutes.  She used to clip newspaper articles....usually Ann Landers.  Talking about personal things in my family was rare.  If she wanted to send me a message about my behavior or some advice she had for me...she would leave Ann Landers articles in my room.  It was really hard for my Mom to share her feelings.  She had a hard time when she growing up.  Her Mom died when she was 5 and her sister was 2.  My grandpa couldn't work and take care of them, so they were sent to foster homes and relatives every year until my grandpa married a widow with 5 kids of her own.  She never felt like her step-mother liked her and her sister.  I don't think my mom ever felt loved or wanted.

 Early in her marriage to Dad, the pictures tell a love story.  Finally...she had a home with love in it.  My Dad started drinking too much and the happy smiles and shows of affection stopped.  She survived it...though and their marriage was pretty solid for the remainder of their lives.  One time she told me.. he told her that she was his best friend.   That's how it should be in the end...
Back to my research for now.....

Clifford 1994 to 2009

Clifford   1994 to 2009
The Best Dog Ever